You've been through a lot, in the name of love. You've given all and got little or nothing but heartbreaks in return. You've packed up your heart, never willing to let anyone within the farthest distance of its new home. You are not willing now or in the nearest future to give anyone ever a chance to prove this theory wrong because you've tried over and again and ended up with the same result.
Maybe you've even gone for a deliverance, lol, trying to find what is wrong with you, and found nothing, ofcourse you would find nothing because whatever it is that's happening to you because you've simply refused to drop the baggage of the past.
The re-occurrences come because you've strapped yourself with the burden of yesterday and have refused to let go.
Just let go, I personally like the statement that yesterday really did end last night, so whatever you've gone through in the hands of the opposite sex, just let go, there is still so much beauty inside of you waiting to be unleashed.
So much capacity to love and be loved, dont just end your life simply because a few of the people you met earlier dont know the first thing about appreciating the best God has placed in you. And stop, please stop, giving them the impression that what you are right now is all that you can ever be.
You are more...so you can begin life afresh, just release the past!
Monday, 22 March 2010
Thursday, 18 March 2010
To be at peace in the midst of pieces?
Meanwhile, the state governor, Jonah Jang, has appealed for calm and restraint in the wake of the latest attack. In a statement yesterday in Jos, the director of press to the governor, James Mannok, said Mr. Jang appealed to the people to go about their lawful businesses peacefully.
I just read this on an online page and couldn't help but scream, 'what the heck?'. Okay, I actually didn't scream out because I am in the office but I'd give anything to be able to scream that right now.
You mean your people are being slaughtered by their brothers and all you can offer is that they be calm, and go about their businesses, peacefully? What business? In what piece, abi peace? both apply and I don't swear, but this is one time I nearly would have done so.
A scenario occurs the first time right under your nose and you don't put security measures in place to avoid a re-occurrence. It happens again and you expect us to fold our hands and say with you its an error.
An error that has claimed the lives of hundreds of people, placed under your care, in very gruesome manners, that will make one lose his appetite for days. And make the very thought of eating food seem like eating saw-dust.
Please Jonah Jang, the name even makes me think of a book or was it a movie, something, something and the gang, gather your wits about you and seek for help for your people. If its beyond you let those who can handle it take over, you never know the next time it could be your family the axe will fall on, I'm not threatening anyone o. I'm no fulani.
What am I even doing pleading? Since our acting President has started 'acting', I think he should act again in the interest of the Plateau State indigenes. Yes, that's what I think, maybe, just maybe, he might be able to put a stop to the senseless killings repeatedly going on there.
Wednesday, 17 March 2010
COMFORT
This word is one word that I know is quite strange to a family I know right now, who just lost their breadwinner, did I just say lost?
Well, we Christians are taught that when you lose someone here on earth, God gains the person abi? But why is it still so painful to think that the person is leaving us and going to God?
I guess its the blood that binds us, that is if he/she's family or the good times we shared or even the fights we miss. But somehow its just too sudden when our loved one transcends on to the great beyond and we just cant come to terms with all the voices we keep hearing say take heart, because we've been numbed by shock and greater shock that we didn't prepare for it, can we even really prepare for death?
But through it all, you just find strength somehow to pull through it and forge ahead with life. So to you who have lost someone, I guess the number one comfort is in knowing that God has gained that one, and that like in our childish minds those days when we use to think he/she has gone abroad where life is so much more easy, he/she has actually gone to a better place in heaven.
Away with the pain and in comes peace, only they just didn't bargain how we'd feel here right? Take heart, take solace, take comfort in knowing that away from the flesh means present with the Lord.
Let the action begin
While sitting in the office this morning, (or was it early afternoon?) we were working but also listening to the news, because we weren't really watching, even though we were listening to sound from the TV, which was on, of course it would be on for us to even hear it.
Don't mind me jare, it was a post amnesty appraisal summit, that was airing on AIT at the time, you needed to see all the big wigs, in whose mind was the solution to the Niger Delta and militancy issue, while one of them stood and talked openly of how successful the Yaradua project has been.
Little did they know what was in store for them that early afternoon, because while the first speaker was still on there was a loud noise which left his mouth agape. We soon began to argue in the office what it could be, as the programme quickly went off air.
Our arguments was soon to be rewarded with a breaking news on the bomb explosion in Warri right under the noses of the men who were seeking lasting solutions to the issue at hand.
My question is, when will this people learn to stop talking and start listening so better action can be taken to quell this inferno threatening to burn down the very debris that Nigeria is becoming, if help does not come to her fast?
Monday, 8 March 2010
Bounce back...
Hope you had a good weekend, mine was eventful and funfilled at the same time. It was so much so that I couldnt find time to put somthning on for you guys, but I'm here now to put things straight and I'm starting with this, piece of my mind. I dont know who its for. E fit be you o!
Has life dealt you a terrible blow? Have you decided to lie low and not raise your head else it happens again? Are you filled with questions of what you should have done to either avert or avoid it? Are you blaming yourself, or even someone else, so much for it? Are you thinking, if I had another chance, I'd be more careful and more attentive or that you'd do somethings differently?
Then gee!, you've got another chance.
Today is another day, dont carry the baggage of yesterday's garbage into this new and beautiful day. You've got a whole new life, a whole beautiful life ahead of you and you can begin to live again. Dust the past and move on, you've got so much inside of you to give out, and so much space in there to receive as well.
So dont hold back, I think its time to make a bounce back!
Has life dealt you a terrible blow? Have you decided to lie low and not raise your head else it happens again? Are you filled with questions of what you should have done to either avert or avoid it? Are you blaming yourself, or even someone else, so much for it? Are you thinking, if I had another chance, I'd be more careful and more attentive or that you'd do somethings differently?
Then gee!, you've got another chance.
Today is another day, dont carry the baggage of yesterday's garbage into this new and beautiful day. You've got a whole new life, a whole beautiful life ahead of you and you can begin to live again. Dust the past and move on, you've got so much inside of you to give out, and so much space in there to receive as well.
So dont hold back, I think its time to make a bounce back!
Friday, 5 March 2010
Déjà vu...
This message is meant for the acting president of Nigeria, (AP, VP,) Goodluck Jonathan.
Sir, I have read and watched with interest, most of the transformations that have happened in your life, and with all due respect, sir, I submit that your parents had reasons to so name you.
Sir, I read on face book, well you know this face book people can be ludicrous at times, that you were assistant class captain when you were in school and that the class captain was withdrawn or something happened sha, and you were automatically sworn in as captain.
They swear that the same thing happened when you were in high school, where you were assistant headboy, and inasmuch as I'm praying this is untrue, they say the headboy died and you automatically assumed the role of the headboy.
According to them you were also a vice chancellor of an unnamed university, then went on to become an assistant local government chairman. Sir, I'm not exactly sure how the rest of the story played out, but I certainly have been born when it happened in Bayelsa state. When the almighty Obj ousted your oga, Alams from his exalted position and the seat was unceremoniously vacant, you must have thought, "Oh, not again", but the seat needed an occupant, and who better to occupy it than the number 2 man in the state, your humble self.
Sir, suddenly you find yourself the running mate of the Presidential candidate, and emerged the Vice President of the Federal Republic of Nigeria. Little did you know that history will repeat itself (or did you know? especially following antecedents) in this instance, your chief is incapacitated, and you are being thrust in the full eye of the public, to be their chief servant.
My main grouse is, why you must allow events decide for you what to do. Why can't you step out for once and declare your intentions? A lot of people are calling you chicken-hearted to my distaste, and ascribe it to the view that you have something to hide.
Try as hard as I want to shake this thought off, the fact that its happened over and again makes it impossible for me to.
So dear sir, while this whole national brouhaha continues, I'd like you to dare your critics by stepping out and saying something concerning what you know your rights to be as the Vice President of a country whose President is incapacitated, dont just sit back and allow other people fight your fight.
I rest my case!
Sir, I have read and watched with interest, most of the transformations that have happened in your life, and with all due respect, sir, I submit that your parents had reasons to so name you.
Sir, I read on face book, well you know this face book people can be ludicrous at times, that you were assistant class captain when you were in school and that the class captain was withdrawn or something happened sha, and you were automatically sworn in as captain.
They swear that the same thing happened when you were in high school, where you were assistant headboy, and inasmuch as I'm praying this is untrue, they say the headboy died and you automatically assumed the role of the headboy.
According to them you were also a vice chancellor of an unnamed university, then went on to become an assistant local government chairman. Sir, I'm not exactly sure how the rest of the story played out, but I certainly have been born when it happened in Bayelsa state. When the almighty Obj ousted your oga, Alams from his exalted position and the seat was unceremoniously vacant, you must have thought, "Oh, not again", but the seat needed an occupant, and who better to occupy it than the number 2 man in the state, your humble self.
Sir, suddenly you find yourself the running mate of the Presidential candidate, and emerged the Vice President of the Federal Republic of Nigeria. Little did you know that history will repeat itself (or did you know? especially following antecedents) in this instance, your chief is incapacitated, and you are being thrust in the full eye of the public, to be their chief servant.
My main grouse is, why you must allow events decide for you what to do. Why can't you step out for once and declare your intentions? A lot of people are calling you chicken-hearted to my distaste, and ascribe it to the view that you have something to hide.
Try as hard as I want to shake this thought off, the fact that its happened over and again makes it impossible for me to.
So dear sir, while this whole national brouhaha continues, I'd like you to dare your critics by stepping out and saying something concerning what you know your rights to be as the Vice President of a country whose President is incapacitated, dont just sit back and allow other people fight your fight.
I rest my case!
Thursday, 4 March 2010
To have and to hold
Are you married? Then you must have said these words as a vow, unless you did not marry legally, or you wrote your own vows, then you may not know what I mean.
But if you were married legally, that is in a church or a registry, at least, you must have said these words as vows. I just want to drive home the point that it is one phrase you cant remove from wedding vows.
But if you are unmarried, then you are excused, but watch out! You may not have said it,but then again you most definitely may have heard it being exchanged at a wedding ceremony. Hey! don't shrug it off yet, you are cupid's target! You will soon encounter 'it'. So begin to get used to the idea that marriage is to have and to hold.
I don't know who made the general vows almost everyone is using today, but it makes a lot of sense to me that its not just to have...But its also to hold.
To have, the way I understand it is to acquire, while to hold, is to retain.
The process of having first starts with sighting. Next is the desire to know more, this is accompanied by a pursuit which may be easy or difficult if the lady in question decides to play the old 'hard to get' game.
The whole quest is terminated where it is discovered that the prize belongs to someone else, some people still never give up though, or that she is altogether not interested. Ask me later why the chasing should be done by the guy alone.
Otherwise, it moves to an entirely new level called courting, dating (by some).
At this level, folks are encouraged to know all they can about themselves, their likes and dislikes etc. This is generally accepted to be the process of determining the level of compatibility or incompatibility between two people.
I will advise taking this 'knowing' one step at a time, being 'present' at every conversation and not being carried away by lust for physical contact that one totally misses out on what should be learnt at each stage.
I also advise excommunicating body contacts that could lead to obeying sexual urges as this has been known to becloud judgement.
As soon as this stage is crossed then knowing both families and other familiarisation processes gradually fall into place. The two people are gradually inching closer to the 'have' part.
We all know this process is the most tasking for most couples.
But then comes the day everyone has been waiting for when she is finally handed to him, to have and to hold.
The issue here is that most guys have memory lapses and soon forget all they went through to have her, and are careless about the holding part.
Now she has been 'acquired', the chase is over, she is going no where, they think. But this is where the main work is, to hold her, cherish her, love her, nurture her and make her feel wanted all the days of the life she has signed to be with you.
She is meant to feel special, because her life will take twists and turns as she opens up to be to you all that God has created her to be. She is meant to radiate and blossom as the days go by not lack lustre and fade.
Hold her, squeeze her hands reassuringly, whisper sweet words to her. Leave her notes on days you feel too angry to voice your appreciation for her. A woman just wants to feel loved. Nothing is more secure for her than knowing she is top in your list of priorities. She is such a wonder from God to you and is meant to feel every connecting dot of the word wonderful.
So babes, the next time you are falling in love with someone, or you are being chased all across town and you are not offered these two options or an assurance that they would be firmly settled, please don't go into that contract called marriage. Because it is still "to have and to hold".
If you are not comfortable with it BEAT IT!
But if you were married legally, that is in a church or a registry, at least, you must have said these words as vows. I just want to drive home the point that it is one phrase you cant remove from wedding vows.
But if you are unmarried, then you are excused, but watch out! You may not have said it,but then again you most definitely may have heard it being exchanged at a wedding ceremony. Hey! don't shrug it off yet, you are cupid's target! You will soon encounter 'it'. So begin to get used to the idea that marriage is to have and to hold.
I don't know who made the general vows almost everyone is using today, but it makes a lot of sense to me that its not just to have...But its also to hold.
To have, the way I understand it is to acquire, while to hold, is to retain.
The process of having first starts with sighting. Next is the desire to know more, this is accompanied by a pursuit which may be easy or difficult if the lady in question decides to play the old 'hard to get' game.
The whole quest is terminated where it is discovered that the prize belongs to someone else, some people still never give up though, or that she is altogether not interested. Ask me later why the chasing should be done by the guy alone.
Otherwise, it moves to an entirely new level called courting, dating (by some).
At this level, folks are encouraged to know all they can about themselves, their likes and dislikes etc. This is generally accepted to be the process of determining the level of compatibility or incompatibility between two people.
I will advise taking this 'knowing' one step at a time, being 'present' at every conversation and not being carried away by lust for physical contact that one totally misses out on what should be learnt at each stage.
I also advise excommunicating body contacts that could lead to obeying sexual urges as this has been known to becloud judgement.
As soon as this stage is crossed then knowing both families and other familiarisation processes gradually fall into place. The two people are gradually inching closer to the 'have' part.
We all know this process is the most tasking for most couples.
But then comes the day everyone has been waiting for when she is finally handed to him, to have and to hold.
The issue here is that most guys have memory lapses and soon forget all they went through to have her, and are careless about the holding part.
Now she has been 'acquired', the chase is over, she is going no where, they think. But this is where the main work is, to hold her, cherish her, love her, nurture her and make her feel wanted all the days of the life she has signed to be with you.
She is meant to feel special, because her life will take twists and turns as she opens up to be to you all that God has created her to be. She is meant to radiate and blossom as the days go by not lack lustre and fade.
Hold her, squeeze her hands reassuringly, whisper sweet words to her. Leave her notes on days you feel too angry to voice your appreciation for her. A woman just wants to feel loved. Nothing is more secure for her than knowing she is top in your list of priorities. She is such a wonder from God to you and is meant to feel every connecting dot of the word wonderful.
So babes, the next time you are falling in love with someone, or you are being chased all across town and you are not offered these two options or an assurance that they would be firmly settled, please don't go into that contract called marriage. Because it is still "to have and to hold".
If you are not comfortable with it BEAT IT!
Wednesday, 3 March 2010
The gains and pains of deception
I really wont know now if there are any gains, but if there was, I can assure that its only temporary and will give way to the mother of all heart aches.
Deception is the worst thing that can happen to a given mutually benefitting environment. It is misleading someone or a group of people by a trick or some device into believing something that is quite untrue.
The Nigerian nation, of which I rather find myself a very important citizen has been undergoing this anomaly and the sooner the master hatchers are exposed and disgraced the better for everyone, especially, the infamous ones at the highest corridors of power who have formed an oligarchy.
Sometimes I really wonder, if the members of the national house of Assembly are as ignorant as they claim to be about everything going on in the country, then I think they should step aside and let people, who have the polity at heart, and can, take over.
I dont know why I chose to write on the state of the nation, but dont blame me. Its only a fool that would be at ease in a house whose roof is burning, like they say.
Deceive someone else and you are wicked, deceive yourself and you are mad, says my pastor, Abraham Sam Aiyedogbon.
A word is enough for the wise!
Deception is the worst thing that can happen to a given mutually benefitting environment. It is misleading someone or a group of people by a trick or some device into believing something that is quite untrue.
The Nigerian nation, of which I rather find myself a very important citizen has been undergoing this anomaly and the sooner the master hatchers are exposed and disgraced the better for everyone, especially, the infamous ones at the highest corridors of power who have formed an oligarchy.
Sometimes I really wonder, if the members of the national house of Assembly are as ignorant as they claim to be about everything going on in the country, then I think they should step aside and let people, who have the polity at heart, and can, take over.
I dont know why I chose to write on the state of the nation, but dont blame me. Its only a fool that would be at ease in a house whose roof is burning, like they say.
Deceive someone else and you are wicked, deceive yourself and you are mad, says my pastor, Abraham Sam Aiyedogbon.
A word is enough for the wise!
Monday, 1 March 2010
To love and be loved
Love,
I wish we all understood its real meaning and can use it appropriately. It is a great deal to know that you are in love and can have that love returned. The effects of loving someone who does not love you in return is so devastating. Its worse when you are in love with someone who is in love with someone else. You want to pry their eyes open, supposing they cant see why you two should be together, that's ofcourse because you think you can see what they cant.
I think that its like that early school days prayer for food,
"Some have food but cannot eat
Some can eat but have no food
We have food and we can eat
Glory be to thee, Oh Lord"
Its really a blessing when you love someone, who loves you back, you are more focussed, would have escaped ulcers, which could easily be gotten from thinking too much and skipping meals.
So if you are one person who's enjoying the love of someone you love so much, be glad!
I wish we all understood its real meaning and can use it appropriately. It is a great deal to know that you are in love and can have that love returned. The effects of loving someone who does not love you in return is so devastating. Its worse when you are in love with someone who is in love with someone else. You want to pry their eyes open, supposing they cant see why you two should be together, that's ofcourse because you think you can see what they cant.
I think that its like that early school days prayer for food,
"Some have food but cannot eat
Some can eat but have no food
We have food and we can eat
Glory be to thee, Oh Lord"
Its really a blessing when you love someone, who loves you back, you are more focussed, would have escaped ulcers, which could easily be gotten from thinking too much and skipping meals.
So if you are one person who's enjoying the love of someone you love so much, be glad!
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