Why does it hurt so bad?

When Whitney Houston did this song, she was heartbroken by a guy. Oh! the pain of a heartbreak caused by disappointments coming from people you hold dear. Backstabbers, cheaters, betrayers, it really hurts to have someone who knows a great deal about you turn around and use those information against you.
I can tell, the extent of the pain and anguish it brings, because I've been there.
But it hurts so much more when such people turn around again and want to be your friends pretending that nothing ever went wrong.
That's the case with a general, who is yearning, did I just use yearning? Gathering momentum to come back and rule Nigeria, brandishing his gap toothed smile and the same charm with which he stole our hearts way back.
I think a backstabber once he's been discovered should just keep his distance, because even if he has turned a new leaf, one still sees him as what he was before while the scales shielded the truth from one's eyes. Any show of friendship is quickly transmitted to one's senses as the piper playing the tune that would lead the chicken into the boiling pot of stew.
What we don't need now are people who set us back by years and time when they had the opportunity to move us forward, we don't need people who have trained their children at the expense of the education of so many others, people who built their empires at the expense of our living in detestable conditions, who flew all over the world, saw the goodies there are out there and still chose to leave us in the dark, who acquired so much power with which they trample us under feet.
No! I say we don't need people who have become insensitive to our plights, we need people who are people minded, who feel what we feel and who understand it when we say that we need light, not those who have other sources of electricity and therefore don't understand what NEPA or PHCN stand for because they don't use them anyway, the knowledge they have of these agencies is that they are other forms of income to them, and of course they won't hesitate to siphon what else remains of the resources meant to restore them.
Oh God don't let the evil one have his way in this country, not again or else we would be drowned in the abyss beyond redemption.
Today, young Nigerians have once again hit the streets on an "enough is enough" rally in a bid to call to question all these injustices and more and see that we don't go down this road a second time.
We've been through this path once and from the little I know of cliches its only a good turn that deserves another.
Should one bad turn be given another?

Tears of love?

Why is it that most foreign guys must go down on one knee and have tears in their eyes as they propose to their babes. I've been wondering, and the thing that pains me the most is that most of our guys here dont even ask why, they just copy.
And we are so used to copying everything that the babes too have resorted to copying those, "Oh my God", false tears of the Hollywood babes.
Don't mind me and my pako moves its okay to do all that, but I think at the back of the young man's mind is, God I'm begging you don't let this one say no too. Oh you thought he was kneeling to you? then you got another think coming. He's praying to God that he wont be rejected, because thick skinned as anyone can claim to be, deep down in our hearts is always the fear of rejection, because it deals a terrible blow to our self esteem.
The tears in his eyes say, "Oh, I'm finally losing my freedom, my boys and all the other babes it could have been". "Oh, well..." he consoles himself and goes, "...please be my wife".
And poor unsuspecting you go, "yes, yes, yes"
Well it may not be the case with every other guy, but if you critically check some of our guys, you will know they are the ones we are talking about here.
God help us ladies! Really!

Release your past!!!

You've been through a lot, in the name of love. You've given all and got little or nothing but heartbreaks in return. You've packed up your heart, never willing to let anyone within the farthest distance of its new home. You are not willing now or in the nearest future to give anyone ever a chance to prove this theory wrong because you've tried over and again and ended up with the same result.
Maybe you've even gone for a deliverance, lol, trying to find what is wrong with you, and found nothing, ofcourse you would find nothing because whatever it is that's happening to you  because you've simply refused to drop the baggage of the past.
The re-occurrences come because you've strapped yourself with the burden of yesterday and have refused to let go.
Just let go, I personally like the statement that yesterday really did end last night, so whatever you've gone through in the hands of the opposite sex, just let go, there is still so much beauty inside of you waiting to be unleashed.
So much capacity to love and be loved, dont just end your life simply because a few of the people you met earlier dont know the first thing about appreciating the best God has placed in you. And stop, please stop, giving them the impression that what you are right now is all that you can ever be.
You are more...so you can begin life afresh, just release the past!

To be at peace in the midst of pieces?

Meanwhile, the state governor, Jonah Jang, has appealed for calm and restraint in the wake of the latest attack. In a statement yesterday in Jos, the director of press to the governor, James Mannok, said Mr. Jang appealed to the people to go about their lawful businesses peacefully.

 

I just read this on an online page and couldn't help but scream, 'what the heck?'. Okay, I actually didn't scream out because I am in the office but I'd give anything to be able to scream that right now.

You mean your people are being slaughtered by their brothers and all you can offer is that they be calm, and go about their businesses, peacefully? What business? In what piece, abi peace? both apply and I don't swear, but this is one time I nearly would have done so.

A scenario occurs the first time right under your nose and you don't put security measures in place to avoid a re-occurrence. It happens again and you expect us to fold our hands and say with you its an error.

An error that has claimed the lives of hundreds of people, placed under your care, in very gruesome manners, that will make one lose his appetite for days. And make the very thought of eating food seem like eating saw-dust.

Please Jonah Jang, the name even makes me think of a book or was it a movie, something, something and the gang, gather your wits about you and seek for help for your people. If its beyond you let those who can handle it take over, you never know the next time it could be your family the axe will fall on, I'm not threatening anyone o. I'm no fulani.

What am I even doing pleading? Since our acting President has started 'acting', I think he should act again in the interest of the Plateau State indigenes. Yes, that's what I think, maybe, just maybe, he might be able to put a stop to the senseless killings repeatedly going on there.

COMFORT

This word is one word that I know is quite strange to a family I know right now, who just lost their breadwinner, did I just say lost?

Well, we Christians are taught that when you lose someone here on earth, God gains the person abi? But why is it still so painful to think that the person is leaving us and going to God?

I guess its the blood that binds us, that is if he/she's family or the good times we shared or even the fights we miss. But somehow its just too sudden when our loved one transcends on to the great beyond and we just cant come to terms with all the voices we keep hearing say take heart, because we've been numbed by shock and greater shock that we didn't prepare for it, can we  even really prepare for death?

But through it all, you just find strength somehow to pull through it and forge ahead with life. So to you who have lost someone, I guess the number one comfort is in knowing that God has gained that one, and that like in our childish minds those days when we use to think he/she has gone abroad where life is so much more easy, he/she has actually gone to a better place in heaven.

Away with the pain and in comes peace, only they just didn't bargain how we'd feel here right? Take heart, take solace, take comfort in knowing that away from the flesh means present with the Lord.

Let the action begin

While sitting in the office this morning, (or was it early afternoon?) we were working but also listening to the news, because we weren't really watching, even though we were listening to sound from the TV, which was on, of course it would be on for us to even hear it.

Don't mind me jare, it was a post amnesty appraisal summit, that was airing on AIT at the time, you needed to see all the big wigs, in whose mind was the solution to the Niger Delta and militancy issue, while one of them stood and talked openly of how successful the Yaradua project has been.

Little did they know what was in store for them that early afternoon, because while the first speaker was still on there was a loud noise which left his mouth agape. We soon began to argue in the office what it could be, as the programme quickly went off air.

Our arguments was soon to be rewarded with a breaking news on the bomb explosion in Warri right under the noses of the men who were seeking lasting solutions to the issue at hand.

My question is, when will this people learn to stop talking and start listening so better action can be taken to quell this inferno threatening to burn down the very debris that Nigeria is becoming, if help does not come to her fast?

Bounce back...

Hope you had a good weekend, mine was eventful and funfilled at the same time. It was so much so that I couldnt find time to put somthning on for you guys, but I'm here now to put things straight and I'm starting with this, piece of my mind. I dont know who its for. E fit be you o!

Has life dealt you a terrible blow? Have you decided to lie low and not raise your head else it happens again? Are you filled with questions of what you should have done to either avert or avoid it? Are you blaming yourself, or even someone else, so much for it? Are you thinking, if I had another chance, I'd be more careful and more attentive or that you'd do somethings differently?
Then gee!, you've got another chance.
Today is another day, dont carry the baggage of yesterday's garbage into this new and beautiful day. You've got a whole new life, a whole beautiful life ahead of you and you can begin to live again. Dust the past and move on, you've got so much inside of you to give out, and so much space in there to receive as well.
So dont hold back, I think its time to make a bounce back!

Déjà vu...

This message is meant for the acting president of Nigeria, (AP, VP,) Goodluck Jonathan.

Sir, I have read and watched with interest, most of the transformations that have happened in your life, and with all due respect, sir, I submit that your parents had reasons to so name you.
Sir, I read on face book, well you know this face book people can be ludicrous at times, that you were assistant class captain when you were in school and that the class captain was withdrawn or something happened sha, and you were automatically sworn in as captain.
They swear that the same thing happened when you were in high school, where you were assistant headboy, and inasmuch as I'm praying this is untrue, they say the headboy died and you automatically assumed the role of the headboy.
According to them you were also a vice chancellor of an unnamed university, then went on to become an assistant local government chairman. Sir, I'm not exactly sure how the rest of the story played out, but I certainly have been born when it happened in Bayelsa state. When the almighty Obj ousted your oga, Alams from his exalted position and the seat was unceremoniously vacant, you must have thought, "Oh, not again", but the seat needed an occupant, and who better to occupy it than the number 2 man in the state, your humble self.
Sir, suddenly you find yourself the running mate of the Presidential candidate, and emerged the Vice President of the Federal Republic of Nigeria. Little did you know that history will repeat itself (or did you know? especially following antecedents) in this instance, your chief is incapacitated, and you are being thrust in the full eye of the public, to be their chief servant.
My main grouse is, why you must allow events decide for you what to do. Why can't you step out for once and declare your intentions? A lot of people are calling you chicken-hearted to my distaste, and ascribe it to the view that you have something to hide.
Try as hard as I want to shake this thought off, the fact that its happened over and again makes it impossible for me to.
So dear sir, while this whole national brouhaha continues, I'd like you to dare your critics by stepping out and saying something concerning what you know your rights to be as the Vice President of a country whose President is incapacitated, dont just sit back and allow other people fight your fight.
I rest my case!

To have and to hold

Are you married? Then you must have said these words as a vow, unless you did not marry legally, or you wrote your own vows, then you may not know what I mean.
But if you were married legally, that is in a church or a registry, at least, you must have said these words as vows. I just want to drive home the point that it is one phrase you cant remove from wedding vows.
But if you are unmarried, then you are excused, but watch out! You may not have said it,but then again you most definitely may have heard it being exchanged at a wedding ceremony. Hey! don't shrug it off yet, you are cupid's target! You will soon encounter 'it'. So begin to get used to the idea that marriage is to have and to hold.
I don't know who made the general vows almost everyone is using today, but it makes a lot of sense to me that its not just to have...But its also to hold.
To have, the way I understand it is to acquire, while to hold, is to retain.
The process of having first starts with sighting. Next is the desire to know more, this is accompanied by a pursuit which may be easy or difficult if the lady in question decides to play the old 'hard to get' game.
The whole quest is terminated where it is discovered that the prize belongs to someone else, some people still never give up though, or that she is altogether not interested. Ask me later why the chasing should be done by the guy alone.
Otherwise, it moves to an entirely new level called courting, dating (by some).
At this level, folks are encouraged to know all they can about themselves, their likes and dislikes etc. This is generally accepted to be the process of determining the level of compatibility or incompatibility between two people.
I will advise taking this 'knowing' one step at a time, being 'present' at every conversation and not being carried away by lust for physical contact that one totally misses out on what should be learnt at each stage.
I also advise excommunicating body contacts that could lead to obeying sexual urges as this has been known to becloud judgement.
As soon as this stage is crossed then knowing both families and other familiarisation processes gradually fall into place. The two people are gradually inching closer to the 'have' part.
We all know this process is the most tasking for most couples.
But then comes the day everyone has been waiting for when she is finally handed to him, to have and to hold.
The issue here is that most guys have memory lapses and soon forget all they went through to have her, and are careless about the holding part.
Now she has been 'acquired', the chase is over, she is going no where, they think. But this is where the main work is, to hold her, cherish her, love her, nurture her and make her feel wanted all the days of the life she has signed to be with you.
She is meant to feel special, because her life will take twists and turns as she opens up to be to you all that God has created her to be. She is meant to radiate and  blossom as the days go by not lack lustre and fade.
Hold her, squeeze her hands reassuringly, whisper sweet words to her. Leave her notes on days you feel too angry to voice your appreciation for her. A woman just wants to feel loved. Nothing is more secure for her than knowing she is top in your list of priorities. She is such a wonder from God to you and is meant to feel every connecting dot of the word wonderful.
So babes, the next time you are falling in love with someone, or you are being chased all across town and you are not offered these two options or an assurance that they would be firmly settled, please don't go into that contract called marriage. Because it is still "to have and to hold".
If you are not comfortable with it BEAT IT!

The gains and pains of deception

I really wont know now if there are any gains, but if there was, I can assure that its only temporary and will give way to the mother of all heart aches.
Deception is the worst thing that can happen to a given mutually benefitting environment. It is misleading someone or a group of people by a trick or some device into believing something that is quite untrue.
The Nigerian nation, of which I rather find myself a very important citizen has been undergoing this anomaly and the sooner the master hatchers are exposed and disgraced the better for everyone, especially, the infamous ones at the highest corridors of power who have formed an oligarchy.
Sometimes I really wonder, if the members of the national house of Assembly are as ignorant as they claim to be about everything going on in the country, then I think they should step aside and let people, who have the polity at heart, and can, take over.
I dont know why I chose to write on the state of the nation, but dont blame me. Its only a fool that would be at ease in a house whose roof is burning, like they say.
Deceive someone else and you are wicked, deceive yourself and you are mad, says my pastor, Abraham Sam Aiyedogbon.
A word is enough for the wise!

To love and be loved

Love,
I wish we all understood its real meaning and can use it appropriately. It is a great deal to know that you are in love and can have that love returned. The effects of loving someone who does not love you in return is so devastating. Its worse when you are in love with someone who is in love with someone else. You want to pry their eyes open, supposing they cant see why you two should be together, that's ofcourse because you think you can see what they cant.
I think that its like that early school days prayer for food,
"Some have food but cannot eat
Some can eat but have no food
We have food and we can eat
Glory be to thee, Oh Lord"
Its really a blessing when you love someone, who loves you back, you are more focussed, would have escaped ulcers, which could easily be gotten from thinking too much and skipping meals.
So if you are one person who's enjoying the love of someone you love so much, be glad!

Are you in a hurry?

I'm sure you have ever heard the saying, "there is no hurry in life". We have often been told, to take it, "one day at a time", the journey of a thousand miles they say begins with a step, but I'm so sure that message is so blurred to someone right now, because of something they are going through.
But making a hasty decision when are on the verge of taking a major step could be the worst thing to happen to anyone. So, no matter what the situation might be, after you have prayed, take time to weigh the situation through your own eyes and that of someone else, whom you are sure has no interest in the matter, yes, because someone with interest in the matter most times would be biased.
Then make that decision, having considered every aspects of the situation, bearing in mind that some of the facts of the situation may not be so clear until a decision is made, either in the affirmative or in the negative.
If you are a conscientious person, it shouldn't take too long for you to reach a conclusion, but even if it does, sometimes, take your time, it might be the best.
There really is no hurry in life.

Let go of the naughty habits,,

Habits
What you do constantly soon forms a part of what is known as your habit. While some habits are good, others are bad. But habits whether good or bad have long and short term effects, so a person who indulges in vices such as smoking which has been said to be a major destroyer of youthful age will have himself to blame overtime.
The reciprocating nature of the law of life states, in lay man's language that, you reap what you sow, and that applies to habits as well. If you are the type that makes lying a habit, you'll soon become that young man whose false alarms about an attacking wild animal, made everyone leave their work to come to his rescue. But who could not find help on the day the wild animal actually came visiting. It might let you off the hook right now but eventually you'll wish you had been truthful all along.
Therefore put away now any habit that will cause you regret in the future and have a good life. Cheers!

What makes you happy?

Happiness is a thing of the mind, our state of mind is what we choose to make of it, and not what we get when we put our minds and hearts on the things we have or don't have.
We may have money, fame or material things and can be so proud of them, but we should never put our hope in them because in the wake of a new invention we stop basking in the euphoria of the known and lose peace over the new.
Let our happiness always flow from within, where no externalities can determine its direction. I remember this line from the book, "Akin, the drummer boy", "...Let not what I cannot have, my cheer of mind destroy..."
So whatever you do, choose to be happy!

Welcome to my blog page...

Hiya,
I heartily welcome you all to my blog page, I have interests in writing, music and reaching out to people generally and this is what I intend to do with my blog page. I sincerely hope that everyone who finds their way here would leave with a sense of satisfaction, lol, from finding what they were looking for or from discovering something they hadn't known before.
Majorly, I would be very pleased to know that some how, one way or the other I was able to touch a life.
On this note I welcome you once again. Please feel free to leave a comment at the end of your foray here, make it kind and encouraging too. Thanks